13 Ways You Know You’re Dating A Grown-Ass Man

Are there any (SINGLE) GROWN MEN left!??? *looks around*

Thought Catalog

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1. You know where you stand. You are his girlfriend or you are a girl he’s dating but either way he’s not scared to define it. He’s not afraid that a girl will cry and run away if she doesn’t hear what she wants to, he wants a mature woman because he is a mature man.

2. You don’t have to prod him to become a real adult. He’s self motivated to improve on his own. If there’s an area of his life that needs improvement, he’s working on it long before you notice it.

3. Texting with him is peaceful. Sometimes you have conversations. Sometimes you make plans. But it’s never a power struggle of who initiates and who texts lasts. It’s not fishing for compliments or security. It’s simply a short form of communication.

4. He calls his mom. You don’t need to tell him to…

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An open letter to Kobe Bryant

As my Brother SHAKA so eloquently put it….. “You have the right to stand on the sidelines in this battle for full equality and equal treatment under the law. What you don’t have the right to do is to stand on the sideline and take shots at the brave-hearts that are willing to lose a few endorsements in order to bring to fruition a more equitable society.


Dear Kobe,

Despite your many on court feats and your obvious first ballot hall of fame credentials, I’ve never been much of a fan of yours. I cannot and will not ever question your competitive spirit or your quest to be the best Michael Jordan since Michael Jordan. You’ve succeeded for the most part in actualizing every kids wildest dream of being like Mike (for better and worst) and to that I tip my hat. I’d also like to congratulate you on reaching another milestone Mikestone in your quest to be the greatest clone ever. You finally eclipsed Michael Jeffery Jordan in one of the areas that he was most proficient at as both an NBA player and an  executive–ignoring the plight of your biggest fans and supporters..

Way back in 1990 when MJ was just starting his reign as the best player in the game a black mayor from…

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Today’s Truth: She didn’t end a 5yr relationship for you..

…it appears she already had one foot out of the door and if she left she knew she could run to you.

It never ceases to amaze me how many men think that they were the chosen one.  Many time there is no excuse to leave one relationship and jump right into another one with someone else. If you feel that you are emotionally prepared to  be another relationship as soon as you close the door on your last one; then chances are you have your bags on the other side of the door already.

Relationships can’t be colored in BLACK & WHITE;  *mumbles*  unless those are the  only markers you can find. There’s definitely some gray areas for most relationships. But, if you are considering walking out that door  be sure to keep those bags put until you have checked to make sure there is not anything else that may need to be addressed.

Chances are you may not be any happier with your next partner…